Saartjie Baartman

Synopsis:

A Khoikhoi woman

First name: 

Sara

Last name: 

Baartman

Date of birth: 

c.1789

Date of death: 

1815

Sara ‘Saartjie’ Baartman was born in 1789* at the Gamtoos river in what is now known as the Eastern Cape. She belonged to the cattle-herding Gonaquasub group of the Khoikhoi. Sara grew up on a colonial farm where her family most probably worked as servants. Her mother died when she was aged two and her father, who was a cattle driver, died when she reached adolescence. Sara married a Khoikhoi man who was a drummer and they had one child together who died shortly after birth.
Due to colonial expansion, the Dutch came into conflict with the Khoikhoi. As a result people were gradually absorbed into the labour system. When she was sixteen years old Sara’s fiancé was murdered by Dutch colonists. Soon after, she was sold into slavery to a trader named Pieter Willem Cezar, who took her to Cape Town where she became a domestic servant to his brother. It was during this time that she was given the name ‘Saartjie’, a Dutch diminutive for Sara.
On 29 October 1810, Sara allegedly ‘signed’ a contract with an English ship surgeon named William Dunlop who was also a friend of Cezar and his brother Hendrik. Apparently, the terms of her ‘contract’ were that she would travel with Hendrik Cezar and Dunlop to England and Ireland to work as a domestic servant, and be exhibited for entertainment purposes. She was to receive a ‘portion of earnings’ from her exhibitions and be allowed to return to South Africa after five years. Two reasons make her ‘signing’ appear dubious. The first is that she was illiterate and came from a cultural tradition that did not write or keep records. Secondly, the Cezar families experienced financial woes and it is suspected that they used Sara to earn money.
Sara Baartman’s large buttocks and unusual colouring made her the object of fascination by the colonial Europeans who presumed that they were racially superior. Dunlop wanted Sara to come to London and become an oddity for display. She was taken to London where she was displayed in a building in Piccadilly, a street that was full of various oddities like “the ne plus ultra of hideousness” and “the greatest deformity in the world”. Englishmen and women paid to see Sara’s half naked body displayed in a cage that was about a metre and half high. She became an attraction for people from various parts of Europe.
During her time with Dunlop and Hendrik Cezar, the campaign against slavery in Britain was in full swing and as a result, the treatment of Baartman was called into question. Her “employers” were brought to trial but faced no real consequences. They produced a document that had allegedly been signed by Sara Baartman and her own testimony which claimed that she was not being mistreated. Her ‘contract’ was, however, amended and she became entitled to ‘better conditions’, greater profit share and warm clothes.
After four years in London, in September 1814, she was transported from England to France, and upon arrival Hendrik Cezar sold her to Reaux, a man who showcased animals. He exhibited her around Paris and reaped financial benefits from the public’s fascination with Sara’s body. He began exhibiting her in a cage alongside a baby rhinoceros. Her “trainer” would order her to sit or stand in a similar way that circus animals are ordered. At times Baartman was displayed almost completely naked, wearing little more than a tan loincloth, and she was only allowed that due to her insistence that she cover what was culturally sacred. She was nicknamed “Hottentot Venus”.
Her constant display attracted the attention of George Cuvier, a naturalist. He asked Reaux if he would allow Sara to be studied as a science specimen to which Reaux agreed. As from March 1815 Sara was studied by French anatomists, zoologists and physiologists. Cuvier concluded that she was a link between animals and humans. Thus, Sara was used to help emphasise the stereotype that Africans were oversexed and a lesser race.
Sara Baartman died in 1816 at the age of 26. It is unknown whether she died from alcoholism, smallpox or pneumonia. Cuvier obtained her remains from local police and dissected her body. He made a plaster cast of her body, pickled her brain and genitals and placed them into jars which were placed on display at the Musée de l'Homme (Museum of Man) until 1974. The story of Sara Baartman resurfaced in 1981 when Stephen Jay Gould, a palaeontologist wrote about her story in his book The Mismeasure of Man where he criticised racial science.
Following the African National Congress (ANC)’s victory in the South African elections, President Nelson Mandela requested that the French government return the remains of Sara Baartman so that she could be laid to rest. The process took eight years, as the French had to draft a carefully worded bill that would not allow other countries to claim treasures taken by the French. Finally on the sixth of March 2002, Sara Baartman was brought back home to South Africa where she was buried. On 9 August 2002, Women’s Day, a public holiday in South Africa, Sara was buried at Hankey in the Eastern Cape Province.
*Note: Sources argue over the exact date of Baartman’s birth but most sources mention the year as 1789.
Saarrtjie Baartman  suffered first degree of human abuse, but this was not in vain, for an organisation was established in her honor to stop women and children abuse.The Saartjie Baartman Centre for Women and Children (SBCWC)

The Saartjie Baartman Centre for Women and Children (SBCWC) was opened in 1999 as the first multi-disciplinary service (one-stop) centre for abused women and children in South Africa. This provided an opportunity for organisations to come together as partners to develop an appropriate on-site multi-agency service delivery model for the effective management, treatment and prevention of violence against women and children. It also presented an opportunity for a partnership approach between government departments and the non-governmental sector.) was opened in 1999 as the first multi-disciplinary service (one-stop) centre for abused women and children in the country. This provided an opportunity for organisations to come together as partners to develop an appropriate on-site multi-agency service delivery model for the effective management, treatment and prevention of violence against women and children. It also presented an opportunity for a partnership approach between government departments and the non-governmental sector.

 The Saartjie Baartman Centre for Women and Children (SBCWC ) is a one-stop centre for women and children who are survivors of abuse. Our vision is the creation of a safe and secure society and a human rights culture where women and children are empowered to exercise their full rights.
Evil prevail when good men fail to act. Do you know a anyone who is a victim of domestic violence, human abuse and violation of human right. Dont be keep mute. Act now, stand against Human Abuse,
PEACE.SALAM.

A limb has fallen from the NYSC tree.

Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.
 Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message that Nnaemeka Frank Umeh Aka Djceeis is Dead.
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.
 The stars are not wanted now; put out every one,
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun,
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the woods;
For nothing now can ever come to any good.

To an hustler who died in line of duty

If lighting a candle will bring you back, we would have burn the whole forest for you.

If filling a cup will make us see your smile again, we would have dry up the ocean for you.

If darkness will make us hear your skillful mix of music on the turn table, the sun will burn itself out. We love you Nnaemeka Frank Umeh.

All 2015 batch B Cross River corps member are grieving over your dismissal

All Cadets of the FRSC CDS are grieving over you.

Dance and Drama CDS group will not forget you.

The OBS crew will never forget you

Hit Fm will never forget you.

The whole of Calabar will not forget you.
CADET Chuks (CnC FRSC CDS) take heart.

Your memory will remain evergreen in our heart

Nnaemeka Frank Umeh        

CR/15B/ ----

A limb has fallen from the NYSC tree.
I keep hearing a voice that says, “Grieve not for me.
Remember the best times in camp, the laughter, the song and the mixes.
The good life I lived before and while serving my father land.
Continue my heritage, I’m counting on you.
Keep smiling and surely the sun will shine through.
My mind is at ease, my soul is at rest.
Remembering all, how I truly was blessed.
Continue traditions, no matter how small.
Go on with your life, don’t worry about falls
I miss you all dearly, so keep up your chin.
Until the day comes we’re together again”.

Corper Nnaemeka Frank Umeh        

CR/15B/ ----

MAXIMUM RESPECT.

we miss you bro.
My OBS CREW MATE
 

JONH SNOW THE KING IN THE NORTH....

At the end of game of throne season 6......the game is still on, now hotter than fire. The most interesting revelation is that,our dear Jon Snow have a Legitimate clam to the iron throne.Here is the break down or summary of season 6... 
After almost a decade-long summer, Westeros now braces itself for an equally-harsh winter, in more ways than one.
In King's Landing, Cersei Lannister has finally achieved her lifelong goal. In one swift move, she has practically wiped out all of her enemies, rivals and obstructions, including Queen Margaery Tyrell, Lord Mace Tyrell, Loras Tyrell, her uncle Kevan, Grand Maester Pycelle, the High Sparrow and the entirety of the Faith Militant, by destroying the Great Sept of Baelor using large amounts of wildfire. Her three children, Joffrey, Myrcella and Tommen are all dead, Tommen having taken his own life shortly after the Sept's destruction, and thus Cersei has crowned herself the undisputed Queen of the Seven Kingdoms, with Qyburn and the undead knight Ser Gregor Clegane at her side. After years of serving as the power behind the throne, House Lannister has now become the new royal house. However, Cersei is still haunted by the prophecy she was told about during her childhood, which claimed that the deaths of her children would only predate her own, making her all the more determined to crush her enemies once and for all.
Despite Cersei's rise to power, the War of the Five Kings continues to ravage the country.
In the Riverlands, the last bastion of King Robb Stark's independent Northern/Riverland Kingdom, Riverrun, has fallen to House Lannister and House Frey, led by Ser Jaime Lannister. Robb's great-uncle, Brynden "The Blackfish" Tully, is dead, having chosen to fight to the death rather than surrender Riverrun, a move that was made possible by his own nephew, Edmure Tully, who ordered the Tully garrison to stand down for the sake of his wife and unborn child. Despite the victory of House Frey, Lord Walder Frey is also dead, having been murdered by Arya Stark for his role in the Red Wedding, leaving the rule of the Riverlands in unknown hands. Also, Sandor "The Hound" Clegane has survived his brutal fight with Brienne of Tarth and attempted to build a new, humble life, but has been dragged back into conflict by the Brotherhood Without Banners, who intend to head North to fight in the war that is coming. Brienne and her squire, Podrick Payne, were only barely able to escape the fall of Riverrun, following their failed attempt to recruit the Blackfish to their cause.
On the Iron Islands, King Balon Greyjoy is dead, having been murdered by his psychopathic brother, Euron Greyjoy. Balon's son, Theon, who returned to the Iron Islands after helping Sansa Stark escape from Ramsay Bolton, endorsed his elder sister, Yara, as their father's successor at the subsequent Kingsmoot, but Euron has usurped the Salt Throne with the promise of an alliance with Daenerys Targaryen across the Narrow Sea to help him conquer the Seven Kingdoms. In desperation, Theon and Yara have stolen most of Euron's fleet and sought out Daenerys's help first, sealing an alliance between House Targaryen and House Greyjoy to help Daenerys retake the Iron Throne and execute Euron for his crimes. Euron, however, has ordered the construction of an even bigger fleet to destroy all who may stand in his way.
Also aiding the Targaryens are the Martells. In Dorne, Ellaria Sand and the Sand Snakes have staged a coup and murdered Prince Doran Martell and his heir, Trystane, and taken control of Dorne in retaliation for Doran refusing to avenge his brother, Oberyn. With Cersei declaring war against the Martells for the murder of Myrcella, Ellaria has turned to Daenerys and her loyalists to bring the Lannisters down. Lady Olenna Tyrell, in response to the deaths of her son, grandson and granddaughter, has also turned to the Targaryens and Martells through Daenerys' loyalist, Varys.
Most of the strife in the Seven Kingdoms, however, lies at the North. At Winterfell, Roose Bolton is dead, having been murdered by his own son, Ramsay, along with his wife and newborn child, leaving Ramsay as the new Warden of the North and enabling him to solidify alliances with House Karstark and House Umber, with Rickon Stark as a hostage. At the Wall, following a horrific mutiny, the deceased Lord Commander Jon Snow has been revived by the Red Priestess Melisandre, while Sansa Stark has escaped from Winterfell and Ramsay, to seek shelter with Jon. Having resigned his post in the Night's Watch, Jon has built an army to retake Winterfell from Ramsay, aided by Ser Davos Seaworth, Tormund and Lady Lyanna Mormont, and though they have achieved victory and destroyed House Bolton thanks to the Knights of the Vale, courtesy of Lord Petyr "Littlefinger" Baelish, House Stark's future is left in a questionable position. With Robb and Rickon dead and Bran believed dead as well, the Northern Lords have turned to Jon and named him the new King in the North, while Sansa has rejected Littlefinger's proposal to help him take the Iron Throne and serve as his queen, setting the stage for conflict between Jon and Littlefinger. Melisandre, meanwhile, has been dismissed from Jon's service following the discovery of her role in Shireen Baratheon's death, stripping Jon of easily one of his most valuable advisors, and is now heading to locations unknown.
In the Reach, despite having to brave various obstacles, Samwell Tarly and his surrogate family, Gilly and her son, have finally reached the Citadel in Oldtown, where Sam intends to train as a maester to gain some insight into the White Walkers and how to defeat them.
Across the Narrow Sea, after having finally defeated the Slave Masters and the Sons of the Harpy and acquired an army made from the Dothraki, the Unsullied, House Greyjoy, House Martell and House Tyrell, Queen Daenerys Targaryen has finally set sail for Westeros, with Tyrion Lannister at her side as her Hand of the Queen, though at the cost of two of her advisors: Jorah Mormont whom Daenerys has sent to find a cure for his spreading greyscale infection, and Daario Naharis, her lover whom Daenerys has ordered to stay behind so that she may pursue a marriage alliance to aid her in her campaign. Little does she know, however, is that she is not be the last of her family after all, and there is somebody across the Narrow Sea who could legitimately challenge her claim to the Targaryen monarchy.
Also, in Braavos, though Arya Stark has regained her sight and favor with the Faceless Men, her code of honor has put her at odds with the guild, causing her to botch an assassination attempt on an innocent target. Despite almost being killed, Arya has escaped Braavos with her life and returned to Westeros, beginning her vengeance for her family by murdering Walder Frey and his sons, Lame Lothar and Black Walder, for orchestrating the Red Wedding that claimed the lives of her brother and mother.
Beyond the Wall, Bran Stark has been training in his powers in greensight under the tutelage of the Three-eyed raven and learned some devastating secrets, such as the true parentage of his alleged half-brother, Jon Snow: he is the son of Lyanna Stark, Ned Stark's sister, and possibly fathered by Rhaegar Targaryen, which would make him the nephew and a rival claimant to Daenerys Targaryen.

 Following an attack which claims the lives of the Three-eyed raven, Hodor and the last of the Children of the Forest, Bran and Meera Reed have been rescued by Bran's undead uncle, Benjen Stark, and taken back to the Wall to prepare for the arrival of the Night King, who at all costs must be defeated before all Westeros can do is dream of spring.

UNIVERSITY OF ILORIN  hereby inform all UTME candidates seeking admission into the institution to note that online capturing of required information for screening exercise will hold between Monday 11th July, 2016 and 25th July, 2016.
The university will only give consideration to UTME candidates who choose UNILORIN as their first choice.
Instructions to Candidates
1. Visit the University PORTAL https://eportal.Unilorin.edu.ng/ and click on online Screening of UTME Application.
2. Download Transaction Reference. The downloading will require you to supply JAMB Registration Number, Names and select the bank you wish to pay to.
3. Take the transaction Reference to any branch of the selected bank for payment
4. After payment, visit the University Portal https://eportal.unilorin.edu.ng/ to fill ion the required details including your result, upload scanned copy of your certificate(s) and 1" x 1" colour passport photograph with red background in JPEG format only (Note use your Transaction Reference as PIN to open the screening forms)
5. Detailed results from at most two of the following examinations SSCE, NECO, NABTEB should be provided.
Candidates awaiting result should supply it within one week of release
6. On completion, preview, confirm, submit and print out Screening Summary Report
ELIGIBILITY
UNILORIN  will admit only candidates who made at least five (5) credit passes in SSCE/NECO/NABTEB in the relevant subjects at not more than two sittings and a minimum of upper credit for Direct Entry candidates. To verify the relevant subjects for your course, visit the online JAMB Brochure
Any candidates who fail to participate in the screening exercise will not be considered for admission into the university.

LOOKING FORWARD TO WELCOMING YOU THE UNILORIN FAMILY..BEST OF LUCK

BREAKING:THREE Australians and a New Zealander have been kidnapped by gunmen in southern Nigeria who killed their local driver in an early morning attack.

THREE Australians and a New Zealander have been kidnapped by gunmen in southern Nigeria who killed their local driver in an early morning attack.

Prime Minister Malcolm Turnbull confirmed the men, who are believed to have been working for Perth-based mining company Macmahon Holdings, had been captured near Calabar in Nigeria’s south.

The families of those taken have been notified and the Australian high commissioner is at the scene, he said.

“We don’t know at this stage the identity of the kidnappers,” Mr Turnbull told reporters while campaigning in Geelong.

Mr Turnbull said three of the kidnapped men were Australian and the fourth a NZ citizen who had Australian residency.

Their local driver was killed during the attack on the group’s vehicle. Another Nigerian and one South African were also reportedly kidnapped.

“It is a very serious kidnapping,” Mr Turnbull said.

The men were contractors for cement company Lafarge Africa and were attacked around 5.30am local time on Wednesday, police said. Lafarge Africa said it was informed of the incident by Macmahon, which carries out quarrying operations at the UniCems joint venture cement plant in Mfamosing near Calabar.

Macmahon Holdings has put its shares in a trading halt on the Australian Securities Exchange ahead of an expected announcement about the kidnapping.

Foreign Minister Julie Bishop said the government was in close contact with the Nigerian government, which is taking the matter extremely seriously.

“I have spoken with our ambassador in Nigeria this morning. I have also spoken with the heads of MacMahon, the mining firm affected by this,” she told media Thursday morning.

“I can confirm that seven people were ambushed and abducted. Three Australians and an Australian permanent resident who was a national of New Zealand, one One Australian was able to avoid the kidnap. Tragically, one Nigerian, a driver was killed and we extend our sympathies to the families.

Ms Bishop said her department was working closely with Nigerian authorities.

Macmahon has an $18 million per year contract with the United Cement Company of Nigeria Ltd (UniCem) for quarrying operations at UniCem’s cement manufacturing plant at Mfamosing, near Calabar.

UniCem is a joint venture between Franco-Swiss conglomerate LafargeHolcim and Flour Mills of Nigeria, according to the Australian firm’s website.

Kidnapping for ransom has been a longstanding problem in southern Nigeria, particularly in the oil-producing delta region, where criminal gangs target wealthy Nigerians and expatriate workers.

Most are usually released after the payment of a ransom.
DETAILS COMING UP SHORTLY.- OMAKUN MAYOWA SOLOMON.

SELF-ESTEEM: RAISING LOW SELF-ESTEEM

Self-Esteem

Possessing little self-regard can lead people to become depressed, to fall short of their potential, or to tolerate abusive situations and relationships. Too much self-love, on the other hand, results in an off-putting sense of entitlement and an inability to learn from failures. (It can also be a sign of clinical narcissism.) Perhaps no other self-help topic has spawned so much advice and so many (often conflicting) theories. Here are my best insights on how to strike a balance between accurate self-knowledge and respect for who you are.

Self-esteem reflects a person's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself, (for example, "I am competent", "I am worthy"), as well as emotional states, such as triumph, despair, pride, and shame. Smith and Mackie (2007) defined it by saying "The self-concept is what we think about the self; self-esteem, is the positive or negative evaluations of the self, as in how we feel about it.

Factors That Can Influence Self-Esteem

As you might imagine, there are different factors that can influence self-esteem. Genetic factors that help shape overall personality can play a role, but it is often our experiences that form the basis for overall self-esteem. Those who consistently receive overly critical or negative assessments from caregivers, family members, and friends, for example, will likely experience problems with low self-esteem.
Four types of self Esteem

1.     Low Self Esteem

2.     High Self Esteem

3.     Worthiness Based Self Esteem

4.     Competence Based Self Esteem

On the horizontal line sits your Competence. As you may remember, competence is how good your abilities are at doing something, whether it be your job, sport, or creating something. In this sense it’s an easily observed and rated behavior. In this case -10 is very poor performance and +10 is highly successful performance.
On the vertical line is Worthiness. It is more of an internal feeling about how good you feel about yourself as a person. The scale here goes from -10 being very depressed, self-hating state, to +10 having an extremely high sense of worth. “0” on each scale is average.
As you can see, this sets up 4 quadrants:

• Low Self Esteem: Low self-esteem is a negative evaluation of oneself. This type of evaluation usually occurs when some circumstance we encounter in our life touches on our sensitivities. We personalize the incident and experience physical, emotional, and cognitive arousal. This is so alarming and confusing that we respond by acting in a self-defeating or self-destructive manner. When that happens, our actions tend to be automatic and impulse-driven; we feel upset or emotionally blocked; our thinking narrows; our self-care deteriorates; we lose our sense of self; we focus on being in control and become self-absorbed. At -10,-10 sits a person who has a poor belief in both their self-worth and competence.  They basically have constant feelings of insecurity, are very cautious, timid, have poor initiative, avoid conflict, and suffer with a lot of anxiety and depression
• High Self Esteem: At +10,+10 is a person who has a good belief in their competence and worth. They generally feel good about themselves, are open to new experiences, feel accepted, and are pleasant to be around. They have a high competence level, which means they have the skill set to succeed in life, and show good mental health, happiness, and are secure in their own identity.
• Worthiness Based Self Esteem: +10,-10 Individuals that fit into this quadrant base their self esteem on how others view them and how they view themselves. They make up for their perceived lack of competence by denying shortcomings, minimizing failures, and surrounding themselves with people who accept them.
• Competence Based Self-Esteem: -10,+10 These individuals measure how they feel about themselves by their achievements and successes. They compensate for their lack of worth by exaggerating the importance of their successes

Difference Between Pride and Self-esteem

Often times, most people misinterpret Self esteem as pride. But Pride is very different from self-esteem. Pride is simply defined as one’s feelings of excessive self worth whereas self-esteem can be synonymous to self-worth, but not necessarily that high. Hence, self-esteem is a stable level of self-worth. It is rather the aggregate sum of one’s feelings of worthiness.

High self-esteem does not necessarily equate to pride. If you contest with anyone just to prove that you are right then that is pride. When you perform your dance really well in front of everybody because you believe that you are good then that is a show of high self-esteem. It is very much different compared to claiming that you are the best and that no one can defeat you in the dance. This misleading or misguiding thought makes the proud person suffer from, not just an overly high self-esteem (pride) but excessive amounts of it.

Raising low self-esteem

 

We all have times when we lack confidence and don’t feel good about ourselves, we are humans na, we are not Angels. But when low self-esteem becomes a long-term problem, it can have a harmful effect on our mental health and our lives.
Self-esteem is the opinion we have of ourselves. When we have healthy self-esteem, we tend to feel positive about ourselves and about life in general. It makes us able to deal with life’s ups and downs better.
When our self-esteem is low, we tend to see ourselves and our life in a more negative and critical light. We also feel less able to take on the challenges life throws at us.

What causes low self-esteem?

Low self-esteem often begins in childhood. Teachers, friends, siblings, parents, and even the media give us lots of messages – both positive and negative. But for some reason, the message that you are not good enough sticks.
You may have found it difficult to live up to other people’s expectations of you, or to your own expectations.
Stress and difficult life events, such as serious illness or a bereavement, can have a negative effect on self-esteem. Personality can also play a part. Some of us are simply more prone to negative thinking, while others set impossibly high standards for themselves. Now, whatever it is that can be your cause of your low self esteem, now is the time to raise your self esteem.

Ways to improve low self-esteem

FIND YOURSELF

As you get to this point of this article, take a break, drop your gadget, pick up the mirror, look into it, call your name three times, ask yourself “who I Epp?”

It’s very important for an individual with low self-esteem to communicate with himself or herself before taking progressive steps towards raising a low self-esteem.

Recognise what you are good at 

We are all good at something, whether it’s cooking, singing, doing puzzles or being a friend. We also tend to enjoy doing the things we are good at, which can help to boost your mood.

Build positive relationships

If you find certain people tend to bring you down, try to spend less time with them, or tell them how you feel about their words or actions. Seek out relationships with people who are positive and who appreciate you.

Be kind to yourself

Professor Williams advises: “Be compassionate to yourself. That means being gentle to yourself at times when you feel like being self-critical. Think what you’d say to encourage a friend in a similar situation. We often give far better advice to others than we do to ourselves.”

Learn to be assertive

Being assertive is about respecting other people’s opinions and needs, and expecting the same from them.
One trick is to look at other people who act assertively and copy what they do. “It’s not about pretending you’re someone you’re not,” says Professor Williams. “It’s picking up hints and tips from people you admire and letting the real you come out. There’s no point suddenly saying, ‘I’m going to be Chris Hoy’, but you might be able to get your bike out and do a bit of cycling for the first time in ages.”

Start saying 'no'

People with low self-esteem often feel they have to say yes to other people, even when they don’t really want to. The risk is that you become overburdened, resentful, angry and depressed.
“For the most part, saying no doesn’t upset relationships,” says Professor Williams. “It can be helpful to take a scratched-record approach. Keep saying no in different ways until they get the message.”

Give yourself a challenge

We all feel nervous or afraid to do things at times. People with healthy self-esteem don’t let these feelings stop them from trying new things or taking on challenges.
Set yourself a goal, such as joining an exercise class or going to a social occasion. Achieving your goals will help to increase your self-esteem. 

Conclusion:
 We all know that self-esteem can be an important part of success. Too little self-esteem can leave people feeling defeated or depressed. It can also lead people to make bad choices, fall into destructive relationships, or fail to live up to their full potential. But what about too much self-esteem? Narcissism can certainly be off-putting and can even damage personal relationships.
Self-esteem levels at the extreme high and low ends of the spectrum can be damaging, so the ideal is to strike a balance somewhere in the middle.

A realistic yet positive view of the self is often considered the ideal.